Before leaving Seattle, Sandra and I went to one of our favorite Seattle retaurants, Carta de Oaxaca, to get in the mood. I spoke with one of the managers as we were paying our bill, telling him we were going to be in Oaxaca the following week, and asking him if he could recommend any restaurants as good as his. He told us he was going to be in Oaxaca over Christmas as well, and when he couldn’t think of any restuarants, he said we should just come over to his house! So, we exchanged numbers and said we’d see him.
A few days after we arrived, we texted him, and arranged to meet him on Friday. He brought his wife, and gave us directions via taxi to his home. They were staying with his in-laws, and in fact were moving into their new home on Christmas day; we were already invited to that. But he also said there was a fiesta for his wife’s family the next day, and we could come to that as well. In the meantime, they had to go off shopping.
So, Saturday we made our way to the area of the city where taxis gather to take folks to the outlying villages. We found ours and got underway. It was about a half-hour trip, northwest of the main city. There are speed bumps continually, but they are not marked, either with paint of signs, so I guess you just have to memorize all of them. The ride took us up toward the surrounding mountains, and we were deposited in front of the church in a small village called Santa Cruz Etla. It felt completely familiar, except for the language of the signs. Cinderblock or concrete houses with terracotta roofs. Dirt roads ourside the main square. We could have been anywhere in the Balkans. We texted Jesus, and he met us at the church. There was a wedding going on in the church, and Jesus said we should go inside. It turned out that it was his sister-in-law who was getting married! She and her husband had two kids, and apparently there was pressure from the church to make the union religiously official.
The church was small with simple decorations and therefore more bearable to Sandra and me. There was a woman playing guitar and singing accompanied by what looked like her son and daughter singing, and playing a tambourine. At one point, the played a version of Blowin’ in the Wind, the music, at least. In addition to the wedding ceremony, the couple also baptized their older daughter. After the ceremony, we threw rice and then walked up to the home for the wedding fiesta.
It was a typically relaxed afternoon, with homemade mezcal (one type of which was hot, reminding me of sake). Simple, homemade appetizers, soup, rice, beans, tortillas, etc. The groom asked us if we wanted to see them dig up the barbacoa, so we went and watched them. I videoed the process. A goat, cut into various pieces and covered with plantain leaves (?) had been baked on a grill and buried about 3 feet deep. They dug up the sand, removed the plantain leaves, and then piled the pieces into a large bowl. We were honored by being handed parts of the goat’s brain. I manged to get mine down, while Sandra surreptitiously got rid of hers. They took us into the kitchen where they wre cutting up the goat, and we also saw the women making tortillas on big, round baking stones. Afterward we got to eat the goat, which reminded both of us of paneyiris in Ikaria.
Dancing was really slow going, so we only did one corrido. Then they had some wedding games. Everyone got in the middle, many with baskets, the musicians played some known tune, and then everyone started throwing candy at each other. We ducked and managed to get back to our seats, and we gave what candy landed on us to some of the kids, except for two pieces of chocolate which we kept for ourselves “for emergencies.” There was another game where the bride and groom stood on separate chairs, each surrounded by and held up by women/men friends, with the groom holding the bride’s veil, making an arch. Then first the kids, then the men, and then the women in the party danced/skipped in a line under the arch, trying to knock the groom and bride off the chairs, with their friends tyring to keep them up. After this, there was a mock funeral procession, with the men carrying the groom, who was on his back with his arms out. Every so often, they’d toss him up in the air and catch him. Finally, they dressed the groom in an apron, purse, and broom, put one of his kids on one arm, and he went around sweeping up the dance floor, while his bride followed him with a belt, hitting him with it every so often.
We left early in the evening and took a taxi ride back to Oaxaca. We passed a float with young girls dressed up for a nativity scene, in front of which were some of those large human figures and a brass band. It was making its way to the zocalo, where there many other such floats circling. It being Christmas eve, it was quite crowded, but again, the energy was just fine. Fireworks of all sizes accompanied us home, and they also lasted well past midnight.
Christmas Day was very quiet. After breakfast we walked to get our taxi. In the zocalo, a symphonic band was playing Mendelssohn for the gathered audience (they had chairs set up as well), and, although not as crowded as the nights before, the square was full of families. We got our taxi and shortly found ourselves back in Santa Cruz Etla.
We walked up to Jesus’ house and arrived as the blessing of the house was occurring. The priest was reading a blessing and sprinkled holy water on the entrance and the owners. Someone broke a bottle of some kind of celebratory beverage on the entrance way, and then Jesus’ family (two young kids in addition to his wife) individually took turns cutting the red ribbon on the gate. We all went in and followed the priest to each room. This was pretty much the same as when I was growing up and our priest would come to the home and bless it, the difference being that this was a new house.
Tables were laid out already on the patio in the front, and the food and drink started arriving. So did a mariachi band, and they were actually very good and professional. Two violins, two trumpets, a bass guitar-type insttuemnt and a rhythm-type instrument (I don’t know the names of these), all acoustic, no mikes. The singers would stand in front of the band as they played, and they’d also go from table to table. Again, very familiar, except that you didn’t have to pay money to get the band to come to your table, as you would in a restaurant, since Jesus’ family was fronting everything.
We had chiccharrones and cheese appetizers, then a plate of tasajo (thinly sliced, grilled beef) and a chile relleno with beans and rice. All really tasty. Light mexcal, beer, and a heavier, higher-content alcohol in shot glasses accompanied this, as did tortillas.
The mariachis played a long set, then had their food. Meanwhile, the second band set up behind us, using drums and a synthesizer and possibly a gutar (I couldn’t see them well). They did cumbias and merengues, and corridoas, mostly with some Chilean dance thrown in. Although the tables and chairs had been moved to make space for dancing, again it was slow going. Sandra thinks it might be some kind of cultural shyness, as her experiences with non-indigenous cultures further south were filled with dancing at the slightest opportunity. Anyway, one of the older women on the side motioned for me to ask someone to dance, and so eventually I asked her, and we were the first ones up. As soon as I was out of the picture, somebody asked Sandra; it turned out he was drunk and a little over the top in holding her, to the point that one of the guys moved him a decent length away (Sandra was holding her own just fine, but the other guy was just being a gentleman). We must have danced with different folks for the next hour or so, and eventually the floor was covered with dancers having what one would think was a good time. A bit hard to tell for me, because there was no such thing as eye contact (at least with me), and very little smiling. But there were enough smiles now and then for me to think that my partners were enjoying themselves. I guess Sandra and I were enough out of the cultural norm that it was ok for us to ask or be asked to dance. And I’m glad we helped get things going after all the generosity we had experienced.
Sandra read a private toast to Jesus and his wife inside the house before we left; she’d worked on it the night before, and it, like everything else at the party, was videotaped. We thanked our hosts and said we would see them in Seattle. It turns out that many of the fellows at the fiesta had worked in or were still working and living in Seattle, at some of the restaurants we have eaten at. All in the kitchen, but if any return (several will be staying in the village), it would definitely be fun to see them and say hi.
The return trip home was a bit of an adventure. Being that it was Christmas and also a Sunday, taxis were far and few between up in the village. We ended up getting into one of the very small, golfcart-like vehicles used for short transport in the village. The driver took us across 4 small hills on dirt roads in the dark and finally deposited us at an intersection, saying we only had to walk five minutes to get to a taxi crossing with many more vehicles going into the city. We flagged one down and piled into the front seat (made for one), as the back was filled; no possibility of using a seatbelt, of course. The driver was a young guy who drove like a madman. I had my arm outside the window hanging onto the top of the door, while Sandra grabbed my other arm, my leg, my shirt, whatever she could hold onto. We weaved in and out across all the lanes, in between buses, cars, and trucks, went through a red light, etc. It was like being in a video game. Finally we made it back to the central taxi area and staggered home.
We both are very glad to have seen this side of life in Oaxaca the past two days. It made it seem more real, and getting out of the city was a good idea as well. Of course, going into La Carta de Oaxaca will never be the same again, in a good way.